MY NEIGHBOR KEEPS ASKING ME TO DRIVE HER DAUGHTER TO SCHOOL, BUT REFUSED WHEN I ASKED HER FOR A FAVOR, SO I GOT READY
My neighbor, Karen, has a daughter the same age as mine. She asked me to take her daughter, Emily, to school “just this once” because of an early meeting. No problem, I thought. But “just this once” quickly turned into almost daily requests. I became her unpaid chauffeur: no offer to cover gas, no offer to return the favor.
Then, last week, I was running late and asked Karen if she could take my daughter, Sophie, just this once. Her response? “Oh, um… I would, but I don’t have enough room in my car.” Keep in mind, she drives an SUV.
I was furious. It was a blatant lie, and she didn’t even try to hide it. So I decided to teach her a lesson. The next morning, just as I expected, she texted me: “Can you take Emily to school today? I have an early meeting. Thanks!”
Perfect. I replied, “Sure, Karen. No problem!”
But instead of heading straight to the school, I…took a little detour. I drove Emily and Sophie to a nearby coffee shop, where we spent a relaxed half-hour enjoying pastries and hot chocolate. I wanted to show Karen that my time was valuable too—and that I wasn’t just her free chauffeur.
After we finished our little breakfast break, I checked the time and saw that we’d be cutting it close to the school’s start time. Finally, I dropped Emily off, watching her rush to get to her classroom before the bell.
Later that day, Karen texted me, asking why Emily had almost been late. I replied with a casual, “Oh, sorry about that! We made a quick stop for breakfast. I thought since I was doing you the favor, I’d treat the girls.”
Her response was quick and laced with irritation. “Emily almost missed her first class! Next time, please just go straight to the school.”
I replied, “Of course, Karen! And just so you know, next time I’ll need you to pitch in for gas or trade favors. It’s only fair, right?”
She didn’t respond, but the message was clear. After that, the daily requests stopped, and Karen learned that relying on someone’s kindness came with a bit of mutual respect and consideration. And from then on, I enjoyed quieter mornings with just my own daughter, no longer the neighborhood chauffeur.
